False Promises: Spouses.

1 Corinthians 7:1-2
1 Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry. 2 But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.

Based on the scripture above, does God promise us a spouse? Absolutely not! Many people have the misconception that everyone is meant to have someone to live with for the rest of their life. I'm not saying that you're sinning if you think that God has the perfect match for you, I'm just saying that this perspective could come with consequences. For example, if you're waiting on God to tell you who the perfect someone is, that could take many years. Everyone has flaws right?

As far as I know, Adam was the only one who woke up and had the ideal and perfect woman, Eve, sitting next to him. God has not done that for anyone else. It is a man's responsibility to find their wife.

It makes sense that God didn't make such a promise because of the free will that he offers us. If he establishes a marriage between two people and one marries someone else, then what is that other person supposed to do? Clearly, free will allows one to marry and commit to someone at their own discretion. Suppose that if one's spouse dies, are they allowed to re-marry? Well, under the standard that many people believe God sets, then no, they wouldn't be able to re-marry because it's outside of their pre-destined marriage.

Just remember that God grants us with the wisdom to make good decisions about choosing a spouse. The only thing that God desires is that your spouse has the same beliefs as you, which seems fair and reasonable. God will introduce people on and off in our life, but in the end it's our decision. Of course God knows, but it's not our job to figure out what he knows. Once a couple marries, then that's where God comes into the picture and is a part of God's will together as one flesh.

I guess the bottom line is that we have to understand God's role in our life and distinguish the difference between a romance novel and faith. A romance novel says that God sends the perfect someone to your door with a ring and flowers. While faith, which is a verb (active), is the trust that one has while on the quest for their spouse asking God every step of the way if they made the right decision.

Today's post was a little bit different. The point is to underline any false promises that may be associated with God. For all those who are married out there, does this make sense? Oh, and congratulations, may you live in love with God and one another.